Do I have a special surprise for you?!? Yes, yes, I do!!
Today, I have THE luckiest guy ever here to talk to you about marriage. Why is he so lucky you ask? Well, because he's married to me. :) I kid.
A couple readers suggested I do a few blog posts on marriage and who better to help me with that than my better half himself? TAB!
This is gonna be a two-parter. Today, we're talking how to know if he/she is "THE ONE". And later this month, we'll be sharing some of our marriage tips (and we'd love for you to share yours).
I mean that would seal the deal, right?
And that's saying something. :)
We're talking FOR REAL, girls! If you're dating someone, how do you know when or if he's THE ONE?
We're both going to share our stories of how we "knew" and then we have a few tips...
"In college, I dated a few guys before meeting Tab and all of those relationships were hard. I mean sometimes they'd call when they said they were going to and sometimes they didn't. None of those relationships were serious, but they just weren't easy.
When Tab and I began dating, it was VERY different. From the beginning, when he said he was going to do something, he did it. It could be as simple as calling or meeting up with me at a certain time. From the beginning, I was a priority in his life and there was instant trust.
I wish you guys could all meet him over the blog somehow, but Tab is crazy fun. He's super personable and can talk to anyone! He had my family and I falling in love with him so quickly.
I don't want to use the term..."I just knew", but it's kind of true. There wasn't an ounce of hesitation about marrying Tab. I knew God had his hand all up in the middle of our relationship and I couldn't wait to be his wife.
When we met we were both seniors in college, so at that point we both knew what we were looking for in a future spouse. Things progressed rather quickly, eight months later we were engaged. We got married about five months after that."-Erika
"Before meeting Erika, I had never officially had a 'girlfriend'. I dated some in high school and college, of course, but just never felt the need to have a girlfriend. I always thought I'd meet my future wife in college, but with one semester to go I'd pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I would graduate single. Then God intervened.
From the start, I knew Erika was beautiful and fun, but there was just something different about her. That difference was her relationship with Christ, which was very important to me when looking for a wife.
After dating for a couple months, it was clear to me she was the girl I was gonna marry. Or at least I was going to ask! I know that sounds simple, but it's the truth. I prayed about it often and can honestly say I was totally, 100% sure she was the one." -Tab
A few of our tips on
"How to Know if He's the One"...
*If dating him is difficult, marriage will be even tougher. Your dating life should be easy. When you add kids, jobs, and laundry things are going to get a whole lot tougher. Trust me. :)
*If you have some hesitations, there's probably a reason for that. Try to figure out what those reasons are and be honest with yourself. Are you having hesitations because he's just not the right guy, you're trying to make him someone he just isn't, or something completely different?
*There are RARE circumstances where families just don't click with great guys, but what does your family think? If he clashes with everyone in your family, then there might be a reason for that.
*Does he make you a priority in his life? Or are you the fall back?
*How's the TRUST in your relationship?
*Does your faith match up? I know a few rare situations where the guy wasn't a believer or church-goer, he got married to a Christian woman, he became a Christian who lived his life for Christ, and they lived happily ever after. That situation is RARE, ladies! If you want a Christian husband, you're going to need to have a Christian boyfriend. Do you remember the example in your youth group of two people on a step and the person on the top steps tries to pull the other person up? It's pretty impossible, but so much easier for the person on the bottom step to pull the person down. Just remember that visual. :)
If you have any helpful tips with knowing if he/she is THE ONE, please leave a comment and share with us all!
Thanks for stopping by, today and a SPECIAL thanks to my partner-in-crime for helping me out today! XOXO