Monday, July 17, 2017

Britt Adoption Update-2 Months

Happy Happy Monday!

Can you believe we've had our girl for two months?!  I didn't do a post-adoption one month post because I was still in the middle of our China recaps so this is gonna be a big one.  A LOT has changed in the last two months.  We were given a quiet, reserved, not-gonna-show-them-my-cards eighteen month old and we now have a joyful, sweet, and absolutely precious twenty month old.


We've been soaking up all kinds of firsts with Miss Britt....

*She's attended birthday parties.
*She enjoyed a little weekend staycation in Dallas.
*She's watched her fair share of basketball and football games played by her older siblings.
*She celebrated her daddy on Father's Day.
*She's had lots of doctor's appointments.
*She's been to church every Sunday since we returned.
*She's seen not one but two firework shows and has celebrated both Independence Day and Memorial Day.
*She's met a ton of friends and family who loved her before they even met her.


 *Eating*
Eating is going pretty well.  She's not as adventurous with what she'll try as she was the first month or so.  She eats both baby food and table food.  I'm still giving her bottles...with whole milk and PediaSure.  This last month she's really started wanting what we have more and more...she'll drink my water, take some bites of whatever I'm eating, etc.  She has her big palate surgery scheduled for next month and her recovery includes a liquid diet for two-three weeks.  Knowing that, I'm trying not to transition her to table food until after all that.  And I know milk and PediaSure will be our BFF during those two-three weeks so I'm keeping that up until afterwards as well.

*Health*
She's doing great!  When we got her I just felt like we were so far behind in having things checked out and tested so the first couple weeks home we had a lot of doctors' appointments.  


*Milestones*
We're working on all the things but a few things I've gotten way too excited about lately...
*She can say, "Mama".  And I think at this moment she understands it.
*She's also learned how to say, "Uh-Oh".  Her voice is the cutest thing ever!
*She is doing so well walking while holding our hands.  She isn't there yet solo, but has made huge strides in the last several weeks.  We're also working on crawling....one slight problem when she's placed on her tummy she SCREAMS.  She absolutely hates it.  I took her to occupational therapy this week (it was AMAZING...like I cried when we walked out to the parking lot kind of AMAZING) and her therapist really wants us to continue trying this frequently throughout the day.  We're obeying but she hates it.  

*Her fine motor skills are great...she can pick up all the little things...even little pieces of something I didn't even realize were present!  ha!  Two months ago when you set food down in front of her she just stared at it.  Now she picks it up and stuffs it in her little mouth.  
*If you ask her how big she is, she'll hold both arms up and we'll say, "SO BIG!".
*When I hold her and am patting her back, she'll lay her head on my shoulder and pat my back too.

*She waves "hi" and "bye".
*If you wink at her, she blinks her eyes very slowly like she's winking.
*When Ebby Lee sings, Britt tries to join her.  For some reason she only does this for Ebby Lee but it is too funny.
*She can do all the right moves to "Patty-Cake"...she claps, rolls them up, and throws them out.
*She knows her name.
*She manages to let us all know what she wants with grunts and pointing.  hahaha!
*She shakes her head "no" and means it.  She's just starting to do "yes".

*Likes*
*She loves her family...she loves us all but I'm her favorite at the moment.
*She loves Puffs.
*Swimming is one of her very favorite things to do.
*She's got some rhythm.  This girl loves loves loves music.  If you play some music, she'll be sure to dance along.
*She also likes to read books.


*Attachment*
This is going so well.  I prayed and prayed about Britt attaching to us and this has definitely been an answered prayer.  For the first eight weeks, Tab and I were the only two who held her, fed her, or comforted her.  We wanted her to know by us alone meeting her needs that we were her parents.  I'm not gonna lie...it was a long eight weeks.  I'd been so used to having my independence whether it was a babysitter watching the kiddos when I had an appointment or simply just Tab and I having a few minutes alone to chat while the kiddos were in bed.  But...I'm SO glad we did that.  I feel like she has attached very well to us, she'd prefer one of us to be holding her, and she knows we're her family.  Like I mentioned last week, if at any moment we feel like she isn't acting attached anymore then we'd immediately go back to just us being the two holding her and such.

*Sleeping*
Sleeping is getting so much better.  This was a rocky subject six weeks ago.  :)  Britt usually sleeps through the night every other night.  On her "off" night, I get her up, offer up a bottle, and then put her back to bed.  Usually she goes right back to sleep.  

*Nap Time*
Britt usually takes a one and a half to two hour nap.  So much of this depends on when she goes to bed and when she wakes up.  This summer we've been going to bed way too late, sleeping in way too long, and taking way too short naps. ha!  I'm thinking when the school year starts and we're all on a good schedule then naps will be longer.


This sweet girl has turned me into the sappiest mom on the planet.  haha!  Did you read the part above where I cried walking into the parking lot because our first therapy session was SO good?!  I'm telling you I'm like putty in her little tiny hands.  The thought of this sweet girl living in an orphanage for eighteen months literally breaks my heart.  She needed us, but I had no clue how much we needed her.  I just asked Nixon (my crazy, wild ALL boy seven-year-old who is also happens to be putty in Britt's tiny little hands) yesterday how our lives would have been if we hadn't listened to God and adopted Britt.  His response, "TERRIBLE".  We could have missed this.  And just the thought breaks my heart.


Our baby girl nine weeks ago to this very day was so reserved, scared, and nervous (and who could blame her for that?) but let me add that she was oh, so brave.  


Now she's looking a lot more like this...is so full of life, such a carefree baby, and has a smile that's contagious.  We love this girl so very much and feel so blessed to call her ours.

If you're feeling led to adopt, I urge you to learn more.  Trust me...if God has this planned for your family, you don't wanna miss this.

Don't forget, I've been taking adoption questions and have a Q and A post coming soon.  If you have any question(s) you'd like me to address, please e-mail me at alittlebitofeverything83@yahoo.com.

Have a GREAT day!  XO

32 comments:

Elspeth Mizner said...

So so so sweet! What a beautiful and happy girl Britt is!!!

Erika Slaughter said...

Thank you!! :)

Mix and Match Mama said...

In just 8 weeks, I have personally seen such a major transformation in this sweet little girl. She has just blossomed! I have to say, watching her pat you when you pat her though is just my favorite thing. She's so precious!

Erika Slaughter said...

It's my favorite thing too. I'm telling you...she makes me sappy!

Narci Dreffs said...

Oh, precious Britt! She has come so far in the past 8 weeks! I love her sweet spirit! Also, I could play the blinking game with her sweet face ALL DAY LONG! Love her!

The White Family said...

I love seeing her transformation. Our cleft son has been home two years last week and his transformation still amazes me! I will be praying for her and you during her surgery and recovery. It was a rough couple of weeks for us, but worth it. I just wrote a blog for "No Hands But Ours" about our cleft experience.

Ann said...

I am so glad you pointed out how much you have been blessed by Brit's arrival! My adopted kids are 27 and 23 and people will still say 'they are so lucky you adopted them' ....no, I am the lucky one!

daniellem02 said...

This is so awesome! I'm so happy for you that her attachment is going so well. For your adoption questions and answers, I would love to know what agency you used, and if you would do anything differently (agency related or otherwise.) Also, I assume you were LID? Would also love to know how long it took to be matched, and if you were open to other medical conditions.

Meagan @ The Clanahan Fam said...

What a great update! And what a sweet, sweet girl. I loved seeing all your kiddos come by and randomly kiss her while they were playing - lots of love for Britt! And you are doing such a great job, momma. <3

Alicia Marie said...

Oh, I just adore these posts!! We leave August 3rd to go get our China baby and she will be 15 months when we get her. Did you just guess on clothing sizes? I am glad to hear about the attachment and even midnight feedings! Britt is so perfect and I am already a crying, sappy mom and I haven't even met her yet!! We also have 3 bio kids, so hearing your kids response to Britt is priceless. Looking forward to the Q&A!

Laci Murray said...

This makes me want to cry happy tears! What a sweet girl she is!

Elaine Welte said...

Love this post!!! You and Tab are doing amazingly well, as is your girl Britt!!!! She's a cutie!

Kathy Lang said...

Love hearing how well Britt is doing, and how blessed all of you are that she is a part of your family. Her smiles are so sweet!

Julie Bradford said...

she looks soo happy!! I love sweet Nixon's comment... just precious!!

B.Y.S. said...

I was adopted into my forever family almost 35 years ago!

Amy

https://www.akwestbeld.blogspot.com

Sheaffer {Pinterest Told Me To} said...

WELL. This post had me crying. Beautifully written and just a joy to read! I need to see sweet Britt very soon and that little one eyed smile!!!! :)

Kate L. said...

She is SO cute, and I am so happy to hear that she is doing so well. Nixon's response made me a sappy one. What a blessing and a lesson to always follow God's call that you've brought to your 3 bio kids. Enjoy that precious, back-patting little one!

Marla Slaughter said...

I've been patiently standing back during all this bonding time! Now I can't wait to spend more snuggle moments with Ms Britt! I also wanted to grandma brag on Ebby, Nixon, & Bowen! They all have loved, protected, and grown by having sweet Britt in our lives! I couldn't be more proud! 💜💜💜💜

Vanessa Piot said...

Britt truly makes the most PRECIOUS and perfect addition to your family!

Yolanda McLean said...

AWWW, I love this post so much. Britt is a beauty. When you wrote about her being brave - well ugly cry. I'm still having a hard time holding myself together. Then I scan the comments and see Grandma Marla's comments and I have to grab another tissue. So thankful you heard God and followed where He led.

Donna Mason said...

I follow both your blog and Shay's blog and you both are simply amazing. I love your families and huge hearts full of love changing the lives of three precious babies. I just ADORE ALL OF YOUR FAMILY. The transformation though in all of them from day to present is astonishing. I think Madeley is one of the happiest babies I have ever seen. Well actually they all are!!!!

If I were younger I would absolutely feel called to adopt TODAY as I have always felt that calling in my heart and you two take all the fear away! Also that Britt pats you on your back when you pat hers is the most precious thing I have ever heard.

Kait Walsh said...

As a soon to be registered OT it brings me great joy to hear Britt's therapy sessions are going well!! Keep up the great work, Slaughters!! :)

Court said...

Do the orphanage caregivers give the children temporary names? Did the caregivers start using the name you chose prior to you getting Britt? Jut curious how that works. Congrats on your beautiful new daughter. So excited for you...

Unknown said...

So curious about the names, too :)

A Gal Named Al said...

This is so wonderful, Erika! I am so happy for your family!

brookerichardson said...

I have definitely seen a transformation in Britt but I have not seen her dance yet. That I need to see asap! And I must hear her say Mama. Isn't that the best? I love it!

Britt Hensley said...

I can't!! She's just too precious! Big prayers for y'all as next month's surgery approaches. God is so good, and thanks for sharing you experience with your beautiful girl!

Sharon said...

Ohmigoodness, her patting you on the back when you pat her - melted me. Our adopted daughter does the same thing and something similar with smoothing my hair that I do to her when loving on her... It is seriously the sweetest thing ever. So happy for y'all....

Terra Heck said...

It's great that she's coming along so well. She's very blessed to have you as her family. Out of curiosity, why was she placed in an orphanage? I ask because I can't fathom why someone would place such a sweet child there.

Erika Slaughter said...

I have no clue why but I do know it involves her birth mom being so brave. Abortions are readily available and I'm so very thankful she chose life.

Cami said...

My baby girl was waiting for us in the newborn nursery for 3 days being loved on by nurses and it breaks my heart. I cannot imagine how heartbreaking it is to know your angel was waiting for you in an orphanage in the other side of the world. So happy you all have each other now! We have two adopted miracles from here in the US and I think there is something inherently sappy about adoption milestones. ��

Stephie Chipp said...

Congratulations on Britt! My baby girl is 20 months old as well. We give her a bottle with formula in it before bed at night still. The Dr's give me the side eye when they get wind of it at her well checks. It works for us and keeps her sleeping better through the night. She's not the best eater and when we offered her milk she wasn't staying as full through the night. :)